Remember......

Parenting skills are so different from the days whilst i was growing up. I remember the phrase that children could be seen but not heard. If we expressed an opinion, most likely we would have got a knock on the head for speaking out. I remembered the times that i have spoken out loud, my parents, my aunt or my uncles would have given me that stern look, so i had better keep my mouth shut. We learned total obedience and we just do what we are told to do.
Nowadays, it is so different. If you tell a child to clean up her room, the reply would be i have a lot of homework to. Yet she would be sitting on the sofa watching the TV or playing games on her handphone. If you remind her a second or third time, the reply would be 'yes, i know....i'll do it later'. What a contrast! Yet today, child psychologists say that children are very stressed. Well, i just wonder what are they stressed about. The parents of today give their almost everything they can afford. They are chauffered to school daily, good food on the table and wear the most beautiful clothes that their parents can afford. This really set me to recall the way i was brought up. I had to wake up at 5 a.m. every morning to wash the clothes and make sure they are all proerly hung up on the clothes lines. Carry buckets of water from the roadside tap and fill up all the big receptacles in the house. After that only could i change and walk 4 0r 5 kilometeres. Of course, i was most happy at school. After school, i must head straight for home. After a quick lunch, i had to set about doing all the household chores, collect firewood, cook dinner and so forth. It was only late at night we had a little time to do our homework and complete them. We did not experience any stress, we only know if we did not complete all our chores, we would certainly receive a good spanking.
Now as i reflect on my own childhood, i realized that my parents did not do such a bad job bringing me up their way........

Remembering...

It's been such a long while since i visited my blog. Time truly flies....i didn't realised that it is more than a year ago that i wrote. Well, my little grandchild is now a toddler ....crawling and walking everywhere as long as she can hold on to something. Guess this is what kept me busy all the time. Little HM is a bubbly child, always smiling and gurgling....but she also has a temper of her own. She likes to play with the TV remote control, handphones and computer keyboards. If i take away any of these items while she is playing with it, she can literally scream the house down. Modern mums and dads nowadays are very different from my days. My time, i would have smacked her bottom for being so naughty....not too hard but enough to discipline the child. Nowadays, the parents always give in to their children....thus we have loads of spoilt children who do not understand the word 'NO'. I truly hope and pray that HM will not be one of these spoilt children.
Another observation......modern parents buy lots of toys for their children. These toys are certainly very expensive. However, after a while , the child gets bored with it and they are put away for storage or given away. What a waste of good money. Mothers today hardly make any soft toys for their children...the easiest way is to go to a shop and get one...fast and save time. I would think making a soft toy for one's own child would show how the mum loves the child..in the literal sense.
Yes, i am showing that grandparent love by knitting a neck scarf for HM......learning how to knit now when i'm in my sixties. In my young days, i did a lot of tatting and crochet, but never knitted. Well, i guess it is never too late to learn. To all grandparents, it can also be fun to learn at this age........