Power Of Now - By Christine Breese
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Why Think Positive?
When things go wrong, remember: It's not WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU that matters most.
It's how YOU THINK ABOUT what happens to you …
EXAMPLE:
Let's say that you are at the airport, waiting to catch a flight, and the airline tells you, "Sorry! Mechanical trouble. You won't be leaving for three hours!"
You get very angry. You tell yourself: "This is terrible! This is a disaster!"
While you remain stressed, things will get worse!People will trip over you, spill coffee in your lap and lose your baggage.
When you fight life, life always wins!
Then finally you cool down.You tell yourself: "There's nothing I can do about it. I am probably where I am meant to be. I'll make the most of it."
Suddenly, everything changes! From nowhere an old friend appears, or you make a new friend, or you stumble on a fresh opportunity - and life begins to support you.
Once we change our thoughts about "a bad situation", we can take advantage of it. You already know this!
Life's great opportunities mostly arrive disguised as misfortune and disaster.
EXAMPLE:
Imagine two women, Mary and Jane. Both get divorced. Mary says, "I've failed. My life is over." Jane says, "My life has just begun!" Who will blossom?
In a Nutshell
Every "disaster" in your life is not so much a disaster, as a situation waiting for you to change your mind about it.
Trying to Change People
Trying to change other people is usually a bad idea!
Why? Because you get frustrated - and they start to hate you!
Example 1:
Fred and Mary are lovers. Mary figures, "Fred is not perfect ... but I can CHANGE him! I'll teach him manners. I'll stop him drinking ..."
Mary is determined to "fix" Fred. But Fred doesn't want to be fixed.
So Fred gets angry and resentful - and Mary gets exhausted.
Both are unhappy!
Example 2:
Let's say that my life is a total mess. I'm out of control, and everyone can see it. Friends give me advice, and I ignore it.
Soon enough ... KABOOM! I go bankrupt or I get fired ... or I get arrested.
I am shattered! But BECAUSE I am shattered, I start to pay attention! I change my behaviour - and my life improves.
Positive change is a natural process. Frequently it unfolds like this...
Step 1: STUPIDITY, followed by
Step 2: DISASTER, followed by
Step 3: DESPERATION, and finally
Step 4: COMMON SENSE.
We need each step.
If you force change upon people, you disrupt the process.
You say, "But it's painful to watch other people being STUPID!"
Right! But when you force them to change, they don't learn.
In a Nutshell
People fall into two groups:
a) Those that make regular adjustments to their life strategy
b) Those that like to hit a brick wall, and then change.
Neither want you to tell them how to live!
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